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Kansas City Ace Space Info!!!

WHAT: The Kansas City area ace community is getting its own Ace Space! An Ace Space being a safe meeting space and time specifically for ace spectrum folks (asexual, demi, grace, y’know, aces). Exciting, no?

WHEN: The first meeting will be 6:30, March 23, and after that on every fourth Friday of the month.

WHERE: UMKC’s Rainbow Lounge (Student Union room 325)

The first meeting may change location because apparently the 23rd is the last day before UMKC’s spring break, but if it does I will put up the information here, and if people send me asks (including people who previously have done so asking me about this), I’ll make a list and make sure to notify you of any changes.

Alternatively, I will also be putting this information in the KC thread at AVEN’s meetup mart, and keeping that up to date as well.

I am so excite, guys. SO EXCITE. And the more of us that make sure to go to the first meeting, the more secure our space and time slots are at UMKC. Just, y’know, putting that out there.

Excitedly!

14. Tell us about a time you met another asexual, whether in real life or online.

So one time, there was this one person in my class who I pretty much never spoke to but I thought ‘hey that person looks like a cool person to get to know, why am I so socially inept and completely anxious? This is really annoying, actually.’ And then that person turned out to be ace, which I found out via a group thing without which I never would have talked to that person ever. And that person is very cool indeed.

So yay.

Vague story is vague. Tired Hawky is tired. Should stop doing these things last minute before bed.

I’m working on compiling a list of the words we came up with a couple of weeks ago for different kinds of nonsexual touching.

ace-talk:

I want to put them together with their definitions, and possibly links to the posts they came from, but for now here’s a list of the words I’ve got:

• touch starved
• touch craving
• skin hunger
• cuddle buddy
• fitting together
• cradling
• hair-touching
• warmth-seeking
• entangling
• baring
• skimming
• silking
• skin-touching
• skinship
• ealy

Here are the words David Jay had on the blog entry that started it all:

• hugging
• spooning
• nuzzling

I’ll get to work on adding the definitions and things when next I have the time and energy, but before I do, are there any others you guys want included?

So this was yonks ago, but talk with the roomie (only about a yonk ago) lead to the suggestion that I suggest headbutting be added to the list. Because that’s our primary physical display of affection/concern/support/comfort/distress/<3.

Also we do this thing where one will sort of headbutt the other and just… lean (some of) their weight into it and stay there. Which doesn’t have a word of its own but should, because it’s such a natural and given movement and form of expression, at least to me.

This in turn can lead to the most awesome head rubs in the world. Which is probably just a form of hair-touching for those of us with at least partially shaved heads. But, y’know, had to mention the head rubs. ‘Cause they’re awesome.

One down, two to go!

True fact, I don’t understand how to post on tumblr. STILL. So let’s try that again.

I did my presentation thing on asexuality. It went less smoothly than I’d like (i.e. flawless, planned, etc.) but on the whole well (they said I was informational?). And.

Apparently the ace presence in the QUILTBAG group made someone comfortable with their asexuality this year.

And.

Apparently last year my presentation helped people too.

And.

I just.

SO MANY WARM FUZZIES GUYS LET’S PARTY. MAKING A DIFFERENCE HERE.

I leave to go set up for the screening in about… an hour and a half. I’m an awkward mixture of so ready and so positive I’m not ready. HOPEFULLY IT WILL GO AS WELL AS THIS DID. ALSO MORE SMOOTHLY. OKAY.